Honesty Hour
Honesty Hour
Just
Take Action. Just Take Action. JUST. TAKE. ACTION.
Are
you feeling stuck, but know you're called into something greater? Do you talk a big game about making changes,
but struggle to follow through?
It's
so common for us to just TALK about wanting change...like "I've got to get
healthier", "I really need to get on my A game", or "I need
to start my dream business" and so on.
The issue is; it's just talk.
It's literally just word vomit that isn't followed up with action. We don't take ourselves and our words
seriously enough.
Maybe
you're an entrepreneur who wants to stop talking about her dream and wants to
be LIVING it. Or maybe you just finally
want to be free of diet culture. I used
to always TALK about wanting food freedom.
Honestly, I wanted it! I didn't
want to weigh myself multiple times a day; I didn't want to continue to lift my
shirt up and look at my stomach when I looked in a mirror and wonder if it had
magically changed in 3 hours; I didn't want to be in My Fitness Pal all the
time, literally counting calories and looking at my macros and seeing what I
had left for the day. I didn't want any
of it. But all I did was talk.
Career,
marriages, friendships, health...whatever it might be for you that you just know
you're not living out what you're capable of, I get it! I understand thinking to yourself
"I'm gonna do this and that", but nothing is changing - everything
feels the same. When we talk and don't
back it up with action, we just feel stuck.
And in feeling stuck, we begin to feel unworthy because we're not
stepping into our potential or pushing ourselves into things that we know deep
down we're meant for. And when you feel
this way, it's hard to really be grateful for all that you do have and all that
IS working out for you.
It's
like we get stuck in this feeling of unworthiness because we're more
comfortable in our own abandonment than we are with change. But I promise you this; God doesn't want you
to feel this way. You're not called to
feel unworthy or incapable of change.
You're not called to feel stuck.
You're just not. And so often
when people feel this way, it's not because they are actually stuck, it's that
they're not really choosing to follow the Holy Spirit. Because even when you feel stuck, God is
definitely still moving - He is always on the move. It's important to KNOW this.
Change. Transformation. Growth.
Evolution. Whatever you call it,
it's time to step into the truest, most authentic, happy and healthy version of
yourself. I know it can feel sticky and
scary and overwhelming (trust me I've
been there MANY times) but there are some easy steps you can take TODAY to help
get you there.
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1. Get uncomfortable
If
you're not getting uncomfortable, you are not allowing yourself to fully evolve
into what you're so capable of being and doing.
You have to take some risks and do things that feel unnatural or
unfamiliar in order to discover your true potential.
I'll
give you an example from my life recently.
Personally, I know I have been called into speaking to women about
freedom, health, stewardship, nourishment, and all those good things. And I know this calling extends beyond the
online space to where I need to be physically in front of women. But the idea of stepping into a space of
speaking in front of people without being able to edit anything or speak from
nothing and just be present and share, felt so uncomfortable to me.
When
I had to do public speaking in college, I would just freeze. I would get up there and literally thank God
for note cards. I'd do the presentation
but I would black out and not remember anything!! Honestly, the memory of this made me so
fearful of getting up there again.
But, long story short, I got asked to speak at a women's conference
event for 30 minutes, where there would be around 200-300 people. Immediately, without hesitation, I said
yes. Because I knew if I thought about
it too much, I would start to second guess myself and my abilities, my nerves
would get the better of me, and I'd feel like this was just too big of a place
to start.
But
let me tell you what this has done for me.
That one speaking event allowed me to find a voice, and not only a voice
of my own, but a TRUE voice that was in sync with the Holy Spirit that I
honestly didn't know I had access to.
All
those years of wondering, "God, why are you calling me to go on stage and
speak to women, I don't really understand?" was just overtaken with this
divine knowing. When I left the stage
that night, I remember explaining to my mom how it's one thing to get called
into something that you do and you hate, but you know you're called into it, so
you just have to sacrifice and do it.
But it's a whole other thing to get called into something that you end
up LOVING and feels so good in your soul.
I had never felt that before in my entire life. If I hadn't got uncomfortable and said yes
and showed up that day, I wouldn't feel prepared and propelled to move into
more events like this. And being able to
speak and share with women on things that will impact their lives and help them
to live with more freedom is EVERYTHING.
It's
SO important to step into things that you are called to, even if you don't feel
capable yet. Don't hold yourself back
because you're not willing to get uncomfortable or your scared to change and
evolve.
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2. Make a move (any move!)
Change
has to start somewhere and it's got to start NOW. If you wait, literally NOTHING will happen.
If
you're stuck in the comfort of your own feelings even though you've got people
pushing you from behind, here's
what you need to do: just take a step.
Take one step. Commit to one
thing TODAY.
One
simple thing that I have to tell myself constantly in my business and my
entrepreneurial journey is that the needle can't move if I don't move. Even if I'm eager to move and grow and evolve
and move that needle forward in my business so that I can impact more people, if I'm doing the same monotonous things every single day, it'll never happen. So now, every week, I ask myself what is
going to move my needle forward, and then I make some small, simple changes so
that I can continue to up level and actually live out my eagerness and desire
to continue to help more and more women!
There also has to be a force behind the needle in order for it to move and for you to make
progress. And that force has to come from
YOU. It has to come from within. And when you move, momentum begins. Each week, try asking yourself how you can
move your needle forward. What 1 small
step can you take that will create even the slightest shift? And then DO IT.
"A complaining tongue reveals an ungrateful heart."
And what if, instead of every time you complained or made an excuse, you said something you were grateful for or was working in your favor? Imagine the shift this would create in your life. Gratitude is everything - focusing on the good will help you see more of it and you'll shift from the excuses to the 'I can and I will' mentality. The mind is so powerful, but what comes out of your mouth is even more powerful, so try to be intentional with your words...maybe that's the 1 step you take right now!?
We
are very good at complaining about our bodies, or our jobs, or our
relationships. We complain about so many things, except we're not willing to
make a move to change anything. That
quote reminds me of just how toxic complaining can be and how it can hold us
back from taking steps forward.
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3. Use resistance to make you STRONGER!
If
you're really feeling stuck and you're just not feeling able to take action, ask yourself:
what's resisting you? What's pulling you
back? What's the thing that's keeping you so comfortable?
Maybe
it's some stories that you're holding onto that tell you you're not capable, or
that you're afraid of failure, or that no one's going to understand where you're
coming from. Examine these lies that
have built up about your body, your abilities, your finances, or whatever it
may be and ask what's resisting you.
What's not allowing you to take a step?
And
remember, resistance makes you stronger.
Think about when you're in the gym doing a back squat every single week,
2 x per week, increasing your weight weekly - you're inevitably going to get
stronger. Through that resistance,
through the challenge, through the thing that's pushing you into the ground
while you're trying to stand up...you will get stronger!
So
often we see our resistance as a roadblock that we cant get past. But the mere act of shifting your mindset
around resistance will begin to create strength. If you think back to all the hardships that
you've been through, you'll be able to see that each and every challenge has
made you stronger. They helped you learn
and become a better version of yourself.
And I know when you're IN a challenging situation, you wouldn't wish it
on your worst enemy, but you also wouldn't want to change having the experience
because of how much it taught you!
So,
whatever resistance you're experiencing right now, whatever is holding you
back, I really urge you to try and see it differently. Look at the resistance as something that is
going to help push you to become a stronger individual. And man, when you can make that mindset
shift, the changes that you're going to be able to make and the steps that
you'll be able to take are going to be so incredible. SO incredible!
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If
you want to hear my full honest and blunt ramble about taking action, go listen
to episode 65 of my podcast - The Chasing Freedom Show. You can listen on Spotify, iTunes,
or SoundCloud.
After
reading this or listening to my podcast, I hope you can take just 1 step. 1 step, that's it. Momentum starts with a single step. And when you can take one step at a time, and
you build momentum and speed, guess what comes from that? Transformation. Change.
Growth. Evolution. Freedom.
Freedom and release from all the resistance and things 'holding you
back'. So, to the girl feeling stuck,
who knows she's called into something greater...MOVE! Just.
Take. Action!
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FREE
ONLINE INTUITIVE EATING WORKSHOP
I
am running my first ever completely free workshop online. Basically, think of
it like a speaking event, except you get to be in your PJs, with a cuppa and
some snacks while you tune in. I'm going to teach my 5 realistic steps to becoming an intuitive eater - the 5 that
you'll ACTUALLY implement right away. I
want this to bring you more peace and more freedom than you've ever had with
food in your entire life!
If
you're struggling to genuinely believe that you can even be an intuitive eater
or if you feel lost on where to start in your food freedom journey or you
actually just have this dream of NEVER HAVING TO DIET AGAIN, then this is for
you!
Join
me for just 1 hour on Tuesday, 24 September 7:00 p.m. EST and I'll give you all
the steps that I went through to go from a chronic dieter to actually finding
and living in REAL food freedom. Sign up
here.
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P.S. Guess who has an OFFICE!? Me!...it's me! I
have an office and I'm so darn excited!
The Chasing Freedom headquarters is officially OPEN. I've just moved back to Georgetown, Kentucky
where I grew up and I'm living with my parents while our house is being
finished (we get to move in in 6 weeks!!!!!!).
Our house is out in the country, so I want somewhere to be able to 'go
to work' in town that is dedicated to CFF and where my kiddies won't see me
working all the time and have that as their main memory of me. I want home to be a place to make memories
and for me to be able to play and be intentional, so it's important for me to
have this separate space. And I LOVE it! (that's where my photo is taken!)
Xo,
Tan
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